I’m not sure that is the case. That’s a pretty big assumption for someone who wasn’t there like yourself. No matter who’s decision it was this idiot let someone else do it to his vehicle as he was sitting in the driver seat. He was involved.
Are you willing to tell the widow and children to their face their husband and father was an idiot?
After driving 1500 miles to deliver the effects of a dead pilot, who flew an airplane I maintained into the side of a mountain at 300 knots, to his widow and son- I have a different view.
You weren’t there. Neither was I. None of us were. Regardless of culpability, there’s no call to be calling anyone an idiot. The lives of at least two families were destroyed in a single moment.
You know what the difference between you- in fact ALL of us- and the deceased? We have the luxury of looking back on our misadventures and think “I made bad choices!”