So does your wife know what you really spend on your Jeep?

mudmobeeler

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Ddays said:
Seriously, I may be a noob to this site bit I sure as hell aint a noob to marriage. One thing I've learned is when to not go poking the Griz, know what I mean?
Don't get me wrong, 99.99% of the last 28 years have been wonderful, but picture this conversation at dinner tonight: "Why yes, dear, I had a lovely day. and, oh by the way,
I just dropped $12k on a set of Dynatrac axles with the great guys at Northridge because I NEEDED them!" HAH! I'd have a dinner fork sticking out of the top of my head! :shock:

She know's I spend "a lot", just not how much "a lot" really is!

Edit: Easier to beg forgiveness than ask permission sometimes ;)
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If my wife spent 12k on whatever without consulting me, we would be divorced. Same goes for me to her.
 
seanb123

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Ddays said:
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Friggin' relax man, this is supposed to be a funny thread not a marriage counselor/financial planning session & please don't make judgements regarding others means to make purchases. My wife is thrilled that we're going out to Moab next year in our Jeep, although she is NOT thrilled about the possibility of me taking her down Black Bear Rd the following year....
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I think he was just stating a simple, but well said, point. Don't take it personal.
 
Ddays

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seanb123 said:
I think he was just stating a simple, but well said, point. Don't take it personal.
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Thank you for de-escalating me. Point well taken. My points are that this is supposed to be a funny thread not something so serious.
 
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MTG

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When these threads pop up I can't help but wonder if for those of you that think you are so clever by hiding your spending and deliveries from your wife, if you ever stop to think that maybe your wife is hiding from you the delivery of her "special package" from Mr. UPS man? :eek: :cheesy:
 
mudmobeeler

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Ddays said:
Fair enough Capt Serious, I got the point the first time. I am fortunate that my wife knows I spend a lot on my Jeep,
but doesn't ask the extent of my expenditures, Ok? The point of this thread was not a cry for help in marriage counseling,
it was to be a funny "what have you done to conceal or maybe stretch the truth so she doesn't find out what you spent" question.
Geez! If you care to ref my last post you would see that my wife enjoys our past, present and future trips. For you guys who have wives
that are involved with your builds, that's awesome! Really! Mine isn't a nuts and bolts gal, she likes to see the results, not the processes.
Can the uptight guys please chill 'fer chrissakes? :gaah:

edit - above addressed to Mudmobeeler.
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I wasn't counseling you or anybody else in marriage counseling. Thats the way you took it. I was just saying you shouldn't have to hide financial stuff from your significant other. If that works for you, great. It would not work for me. So I guess you and I couldn't be married to each other. Wait would that make us have to be posting in the Gay Talk thread? :cheesy:

My wife doesn't get involved in the process of actual building either. She does help me some as far as going to get tools and such which helps me a bunch because I am working on the ground. She enjoys our outings, though it didn't use to be that way. She has come around to it. She gets why I am the way I am about 4x4s and jeeps now. She does know every $$ spent on the jeep and while she may not make a decision about parts for it she is in on the purchasing. She also knows enough not to purchase parts for me, she would rather I pick them out than her try to suprise me. Same with tools and guns. I do the same with her, I dont know shit about fashion so I just say ok go spend the money and you have this much that we can spend on that.

She also wants her own jeep. Which is good and bad, LOL. It will probably be a while though, some other things have came up.
 
Jackal01

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Ddays said:
it was to be a funny "what have you done to conceal or maybe stretch the truth so she doesn't find out what you spent" question.
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I see absolutely nothing funny about "concealing" or "stretching" anything that should be said to my wife. Perhaps I am biased since my wife 100% supports the hobby but if she wasn't, I would tell her to not worry about it. Either tell the truth and she can live it albeit upset/mad or "stretch" the truth to make her feel better which still is stupid because she should be mature enough to accept what you spend money on. My wife spends money on CRAP that I could see better spent on something else but I don't say anything because it is her hobby and money and if she is happy then that is all that matters. I won't say a negative word about it.

You opened this can of worms asking what folks have done to all but be straight forward with our significant others. You then should be mature enough to deal with our opinions when we disagree with the "funny" part of lying (which I still cannot find) which is what it boils down to.
 
jnabird333

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This was a funny read! Thanks for the meeting distraction :)

For us, most of the Jeep spending starts with the wife. She is the true Jeeper, not me. I'm just a hubby that would do anything to keep her happy. If that means buying and installing Jeep parts, shucks. Let's be honest, that's not too bad ;)
 
mudmobeeler

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MTG said:
When these threads pop up I can't help but wonder if for those of you that think you are so clever by hiding your spending and deliveries from your wife, if you ever stop to think that maybe your wife is hiding from you the delivery of her "special package" from Mr. UPS man? :eek: :cheesy:
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Yep, seen that happen too. LOL. Course that would cause us to get divorced and me in jail if that happened, Id repaint in brain matter gray with some touches of blood red.
 
crippledpetey

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MTG said:
When these threads pop up I can't help but wonder if for those of you that think you are so clever by hiding your spending and deliveries from your wife, if you ever stop to think that maybe your wife is hiding from you the delivery of her "special package" from Mr. UPS man? :eek: :cheesy:
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Hey do me a favor...don't tell my wife what I spend on mine...otherwise she might spend it on hers :cheesy:

I feel the same way.
 
shadowpaige64507

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I guess my point would be, if I'm buying something like an axle or my lift kit for that matter I would speak with my wife before buying. She has to be on board or it will not be pretty. I expect the same from her. It's all the items under $200 I avoid the conversations about. I love her to death but she wouldn't understand those items. Hell, she does the same thing to me, telling me she has to have this one brand of body lotion and nothing else will work. I know that is crap but I love her and we move on.

I realize the OP was posting this in hope of people playing along but if I've learned one thing from any forum, what you hope and what you get are seldom in the same ball park.
 
Ddays

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Fair enough all, I asked the question so I shouldn't bitch about the answers! Noob lesson learned, I will wear my ass-hat the rest of the day.
I deleted one of my posts someone referenced earlier because my attempt at humor wasn't and I sounded like an ass.
Don't worry Mudmobeeler, no proposals from me anytime soon! And I am going to watch Brown Santa more closely next
on the next delivery! Hmmm, come to think of it, he's always smiling on his way out the driveway....

But I am undeterred!

C'mon, your wife hasn't walked past your Jeep and noticed something new and asked, "where did that come from" before?
 
crippledpetey

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Ddays said:
C'mon, your wife hasn't walked past your Jeep and noticed something new and asked, "where did that come from" before?
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This actually happens to me with her jeep. I ride in it or move it and I notice something else and I just laugh. I'm happy to share the "fight" over parts with her. It could be worse.
 
JAGS

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My wife and I don't really get in each others finances. We've got a great accounting system to pay our bills, stay out of debt, put money away for kids college, and save for retirement. This type of thread comes up from time to time and I think those with issues about the "jeep" have other more pressing issues. But I'm no marriage counselor.

My wife knows of just about every part purchased and installed (or still to be installed) for ENVY. She knows a general total of what it cost to build/have it installed...mostly. She also knows it took me nearly two years to save at the time. If I want something, and have the money, I buy it. If it is costly and I need to save for a bit, I tell her I'm saving up for XYZ.

Some folks may use their Jeep as an escape from things. I try to use mine as a reason to do more things together and thus my wife and my family support the habit. :thumb::yup:
 
JK LYF

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K.D.C.H said:
In about a month or two I'm getting ready to buy a ProRock 80/60 combo, EVO Double Throwdown front and rear, wheels and 40" tires. I talk to my wife about those items and every purchase because it's something we do as a family. She was perfectly fine with it and is even excited to get it all in.

If you can't talk to your significant other about it or they get angry at every purchase you make then there's something wrong there. You're either purchasing way beyond your family's means or ability and that's why they're upset at you or it's just not a right fit between you both.
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Well said!
 
Ddays

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Yep, that's a similar arrangement to what we have. I never ask about the shoes, clothes, purses, shopping etc, or what she spends on taking the kids to the beach each Summer,
and honestly, if she really pushed, I'd come clean on what I spend. I'm just glad she doesn't push cause she'd shit!

This Jeep is our family Jeep. I am building this so that we can drive to Moab, Rubicon, etc, and still be able to drive it back un-broken. My daughter drives it to school every day, which makes most of the guys at her school green with envy (funny - we were thinking of that for a name but you already took it!) That's one of the reasons I can get away with doing this in the first place!
 
Rhin0247

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JAGS said:
Some folks may use their Jeep as an escape from things. I try to use mine as a reason to do more things together and thus my wife and my family support the habit. :thumb::yup:
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That is well said, me and the fiance feel the same way. :clap2:
 
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