Admittedly, this is a pretty hostile forum.
You're the one who's chosing to be here.
It's really only a few people who actively engage in sending threads sideways, but because of the group think going on the behavior is very heartily supported and defended.
I realize this may be difficult for you to understand but, "the group thing going on" is called "friends" and god forbid that friends actually stick up for each other.
A little bit of self control before popping off negativity can go a long way to building understanding and making members feel comfortable posting and learning and growing, you're post here simply reinforces the same behavior that you decry.
All too often, someone makes a post that for whatever reason gets interpreted in a negative way, and yes the mentality is to unleash the Kraken per se.
In other words, people should be dishonest about how they really feel and be fake to others so not to make anyone upset. Sorry, I actually kind of like honesty and people saying what they really think even with this guy.
I'm continuing to hang on because there is some legitimately good content here, and I believe with some effort, the community could reshape itself into something pretty inspiring
Oh god, sure I hope not.
but I have to admit that there are times when I'm really morally torn, sometimes the bullying is pretty offensive, etc.. the post title changing, the changing of the icon to dildos.. that's all childish stuff...
Clearly, not everyone chooses to be as mature as you but a mature adult, you do have the ability to choose what you want to see. Just sayin
Ugghh.. I didn't mean to get drawn into this... just wanted to say.. yeah it can be pretty crappy at times around here, and your post is at least a reminder of the issue rather than igorning it, but you could have turned the effort into something more useful.
Right, like preach at everyone about how this forum should be made in your own self-righteous image :yup:
I hear what you are saying, but change the policy then. Don't allow that kind of thing distract the community.
I hear what you're saying but then, DON'T visit The 8th Slot or the Infirmary. Both are specific sub-forums made for the kind of distraction you find so distasteful. When threads go sideways, the portions of it that are off topic get moved into them so that YOU don't have to see them.
Put some rules in place that don't allow bullying and trolling behavior. There are enough moderators here that quickly engage in the threads, they could easily throw out the warning that the thread will get closed rather than the negative comment.
You sound like a capable guy, how about you start your own forum and run it in your own self-righteous self-image.
True, alot of it is trolls.. and I see that and it's pretty easy to look beyond that.. but alot of it is just innocent stuff that somebody doesn't agree with, and they receive immediate grief.
Just because you or someone hears something they don't like doesn't mean they've been given "grief". :naw:
