I hear ya on the hoses. I had exactly zero experience with the ram and installed just a couple of days before the NY run. Luckily Byron (bhaner) lives a few miles from me and was a huge help. Great guy to have nearby. I've only had the chance to take it on a couple of trails and a really long road trip since the axles and ram but it's worked awesome.
As far as the height it's at, have you set the pinion angle in the back yet? I was waiting on a new rear driveline the rear was sitting high with no preload. Once I got the pinion pointed where it was supposed to be, the axle was rotated enough where I could dial in some pre load and still be low. I hope that makes sense. Just a thought.
I imagine you are going to be a little more "aggressive" with trimming with short arms and the arc when it droops. Can't wait to see more progress. It's looking awesome.