You'll forgive me but, you install front upper control arms to set your "caster", NOT for "proper drive shaft alignment". You use REAR upper control arms to set your drive shaft pinion angle but NOT up front.
You're steering stabilizer or "steering shock" as you like to call it is there to help absorb kick back and yes, it will mask death wobble. And, to be clear, just because you have a bad track bar and ball joints doesn't mean that your Jeep will have death wobble the instant you drive it. It takes a certain set of conditions to get your front axle oscillating and that's what will cause it to occur. Of course, I don't need to have a couple of guys tell me what I know as I have experienced it on more than one occasion and have seen it happen first hand to many people and have been able to fix it every time. But hey, what do I know.
Not from what I'm hearing. A new shock may have helped to prevent it from occurring but ultimately, something was more than likely still off to allow it to occur. But, that's just the way I see it.